Note the glimmers

One of the terms I learned in a grief group is glimmer - the opposite of a trigger. It’s just a tiny moment of happiness, satisfaction, some positive feeling. Generally speaking, I move pretty quickly through the world, rarely taking time to notice small things. But since I heard about glimmers I have made a serious effort to stop and notice small things that make me happy, even if only for a moment.

The other night I went upstairs to find (for the third night in a row) that I had forgotten to change the sheets on my bed. I could have just gone to bed anyway, but I took the time to change the sheets and remake the bed. I brushed my teeth, washed my face, put on a clean nightgown, pulled back the duvet, and crawled into bed. And I took a moment to really notice the softness of the sheets against my skin and the smell of the fresh pillow case.