Bring me something
Randy wasn’t the best caretaker in the world, but he was happy to fetch and carry. During Covid times he brought me tea almost every morning. When I had my gallbladder removed he carried many things up and down stairs for me and when I rejected a thing I had just asked for he patiently took it away. Because that’s what I needed.
When he knew what I needed he was happy to give it to me and he usually offered to share whatever he had. Historical note: Once, very early in our relationship, we had an argument about pie. He had a piece of pie and I asked for a bite. He said he wouldn’t give me a bite but he offered to get me my own slice. I said I didn't want an entire slice - I just wanted a bite. I got pretty snippy about it.
When he made fresh pancakes he would bring me two - the first ones off the grill, just the way I like them with butter but no syrup. No fork - I roll them up into pancake tubes and eat them with my fingers.
Lately I have been drinking hot chocolate in the evenings with Grand Mariner and whipped cream, dipping shortbread cookies. I don’t know why I’m doing this - I haven’t made myself a cup of hot chocolate in decades. It’s comforting, though - I just wish Randy were here to bring it to me.