Change one thing

Obviously Randy didn’t take this photo or it wouldn’t be fuzzy.

This is one of my guiding principles. If you’re feeling stuck, unsatisfied, unhappy - change one thing. It doesn’t matter what it is - change one thing and then everything else will shift to accommodate that change. You may not like what the change brings, but you get what you get and you can always make another change. When I met Randy I made changes and my whole life became something I never would have expected or hoped for.

Of course sometimes the change is forced upon you and it’s not always welcome. When Randy had the transplant my whole life changed again and I accepted its limitations and made adjustments and at the same time was glad to have the opportunity to keep him in my life.

And then Randy was diagnosed with cancer and my life got worse in every way and I knew there would be no retrieving any of the happiness of the old life - because he WAS the happiness.

And then he died, and I am in despair.

One change - change one thing and everything changes.